My experience is that Dadi Janki has avoided me for many years.
It could be the other way round.
I have met DJ several times, one on one. I've no problems, nor any of the Dadis. They are strict and need to be. One needs to be in their position to understand what they do, you need to be inside, rather than outside looking in.
The way to obtain respect from the Seniors is to respect them as equals. When you see them as Dadis, you are not seeing them as souls. You've allowed yourself to be in a position of worshipping them. Once you've overcome your self respect, then you will be able to hear what they are teaching you. They have a lot of experience, you need to listen carefully. They are not perfect but years of practice does count, especially starting from a young age. When you can see their imperfections, you can even joke with them, they'll definitely spot your weak points too.
I seperate the actions of Seniors and Dadis individually from the BKWSU. One is a spiritual person, and the other is a spiritual university. The souls move on, but the university either stays or gets destroyed. This is why the studying and Gyan is important, the university is here for you during this time and it is up to you to take it, do your own research, find out about yourself, make your own relationships. Remembrance is one way to aid your study, but if you don't take knowledge from the university (or whichever university you wish to follow), then that is entirely up to you. (This is why I am persistent about the consistency of the Murlis....we may all have different feelings about God, but we all study the same Murlis, or so it seems)
Anyway, I will not say no more on Seniors or Dadis
because they are also seeking to be with God, like most of us. So I leave their space to themselves. I am more concerned with what the unversity can do for me at any one time. In the lokik world, did anyone here graduate from the University of ABC or did they graduate from Professor XYZ ?
I've given my general experience with DJ, I hope other members could share a few words with their experiences, good or bad.