Hi. In reply also to what Jannister posted in the"call off celibacy" topic, I agree that repression of any kind may lead to a lot of damage and crimes, i.e. sexual repression resulting in rape and abuses.
In fact, I acknowledge that feeling passionately in love with the Supreme Being can be a very exciting, fulfilling and elating experience. And I even blame the SS for pushing people into investing most of their time in external service making them targets and "results conscious", rather than inspiring Raja Yoga students, to concentrate more on the mystic relationship, the bliss and miracles that this can offer.
So, sect members usually burn themselves out, running around in frentic sewa, trying to gain respect and visibility from God, and other humans, and live very lonely and frustrated lives. If lucky and successfull enough, they manage to tolerate and avoid major clashes of sanskars with others. But does spiritual love and quality in relationships really increase in BK lives?
is not repression and pretence more common than transformation or sublimation of physical energies into something more subtle and stable? As far as I am concerned, during my pukka BK days, I was hardly attracted to bodies, and especially those inhabited by BK brothers.
Romantic love is another department. I did fall in love with some brothers, never denied the feeling but hid it, and suffered. Never got the chance to talk about it with the relevant individuals yet :lol:. At least a couple of them got married with agyani souls. I felt it was a shame, I wish I had found the courage to say, " I really like you" before they went off with someone else!
BKs are so twisted that they think and hope that pairing off with even a materialistic partner, can be a form of proselytism, a way to serve and convert shudras. But I think that it would be more constructive if relationships with other people on the same spiritual path were not prohibited, condemned and despised. Maybe excess in complicity and intimacy between 2 yogi souls, contains a potential for protests and revolution, and anyway, would make the BK organisation itself into something else.
The system is: "in or out". Either you are with us or against us. If you love like a human, you are out. And left alone to deal with your conflicts. Same for attractions and erections. BTW, how, when and why they traditionally appointed Nirwairbhai for lecturing brothers on how to handle sexual arousal? Could be because he's an ex-army guy so, suppposedly more in touch with "tough men realities" or less prudish? We all know that such taboo topics were just touched superficially, never dealt with properly.
Once a good Bk male friend I had known for years, admitted that he had always been "in love" with one or another sister. I felt so relieved, thinking that such feelings were not a despicable exception!
We are lead to think that if we are drawn to a particular soul, we are a black sheep. I wish that this Dharamraj energy coming from some Murlis, passing through all levels of BK hyerarchies, was directed more towards those who boss others about and give sorrow, and that anger and hatred were banished, not love and peace!! :wink: