But if she forces her parents to give money or property then it will not be of much benefit.
The word forcing is not clear/complete here.
Suppose say- you have your grandfather's property and your Father is not ready to give it to you, will you keep quiet or ask ? Would you not force (argue or request with firmness) even a little?
Baba says whatever one gets easily is like milk, whatever one seeks/begs is like water and whatever one snatches from someone is like blood. So, it is completely wrong if BKWSU asks a virgin to bring money from her parents before surrendering. She is giving her life to the Yagya. What more do they want? Is this a business or a Godly service?
I feel it depends on how one asks.
I will give my example- of course not money directly. My semester exams were about to commence in 10 days. But the sister asked me- to do physical service for next 5 days continuously. [There was a big mela/function]. I was worried about exams and got confused, but could not disobey the sister. I did seva from morning 4 Am to night even 12: 00 clock or even 00: 30 AM. While doing seva, I had not negative thought about sister at all. I just did seva as baba's seva. I had very good experience. That is- even though I had no proper sleep, I did not feel any restlessness. It is on the morning of the fifth day when I was about leave the centre place when thought of my exams came into my mind, I felt a little bit head ache and tiredness.
Even today when I just remember such incidents, I feel a great relaxation, happiness and satisifcation that Baba has used my body for his service.
Even my room mate got more score after becoming a pukka sevadhari. He studied less, but scored more.
So- it is Baba who knows . Sometimes he may ask in Murli. Sometimes he may ask through sisters- karan karaavanhaar.
Now- suppose say the kanya is poor. Even then is it not responsibility of the Father to give her at least something? Or do you say Father has no responsibility at all? Is it OK to create children as one wishes and just send them out from home?
It is wrong that Baba seeks money from children. He just tells that if they invest their body, mind and wealth they will reap the benefits for 21 births. If children do so they will reap benefits for themselves, not for others.
But why not inform others to do the same thing? How is it fault?
When we give directions to others we will have both good wishes and some emotions due to body consciousness. What I feel is- if the percentage of good wishes is more than the latter, it is OK.
For example, in AIVV or Advance Party, whenever there is a need for help in construction work at any mini-Madhubans, an intimation is given to the PBKs that there is going to be construction work on such and such date. If anyone is interested they can make use of the chance. But nobody is asked to do service.
In AIVV, the service actvities are not even 5% of BKWSU. They do not approach people - door to door at all. Then their need itself is less.
Now- a simple question- Suppose say there is service of cleaning the class hall, etc. Should the sister just announce or give intimation about that or ask a student to do that?
You said- it is totally wrong to even ask money.
Regarding milk, water and blood,- it depends on one's capacity. If on has power to transform then he can do anything. Is the knowledge just to accept or use like a a machine?
There are clear Murli points that say- you even ask place, hall to give Godly message even from outside people. Then how is it a big wrong to ask money from a Bk- that too when her sister is being given shelter in centre
Now- what is your srimath for the kanya or her parents in such situation?
[My suggestion is- she has to be bold to ask her parents for her share with respect. If the Father does not agree to give, then she should inform the sister that he is not willing and even then she is refused to get surrender, she should accept that it is her test].
Baba says- Bhagavaan ke liye kahaavath hai agar tum pyaar karo yaa maaro- hum tumhaaraa darwaazaa nahin chodenge. = Oh God, even if you love or beat us, we will not leave your door.
But I agree that the sister in charge who asks money should ask without any greed or ego. Of course, there is no need to ask But asking like a trustee is not wrong.